How to WIN FRIENDS and INFLUENCE PEOPLE? What kind of influence do you have in your surroundings? Everyone has influence, but the million dollar question is WHAT KIND OF INFLUENCE DO YOU HAVE? If you are a husband, how are you influencing your wife, if you are a wife how are you influencing your husband and your children. Many times because we just want to have a fun time, we do things that take those we love down a path we really don’t want to go.
If you as a husband take your wife out to parties where there is drinking and partying and months later she or you become addicted to alcohol, you were responsible for leading her and yourself in the wrong direction. Here’s the kicker, we then start to blame
everyone else for all our problems when it was us who made the decision to go down that road. We need to stop blaming others for the road we go down when we are the one’s who chart our own course.
Set the right course and you will get the right results.
I was just thinking about leadership and what I wanted to accomplish in my own leadership and influence in the church.
This week we are starting a new study on the book of Ephesians. This is an exciting
study as it shows us three (3) things about ourselves that most Christians do not know about themselves.
1. WHO WE ARE IN CHRIST:
We struggle in our lives with all the issues that life is made up of. However because we are not aware of who we are we never come out of the struggle of life. This does not have to be.
2. WHAT WE HAVE IN CHRIST:
There are things that we were given when we became Christians that we are not aware of and do not know how to use/ THERE ARE BENEFITS TO BEING A CHRISTIAN.
3. HOW WE SHOULD LIVE NOW THAT WE KNOW WHO WE ARE AND WHAT WE HAVE:
Every Kingdom has a set of rules of how the Kingdom Family is supposed to conduct itself and we want to be successful in His Kingdom. I don’t know about you but I want to successful and blessed in the Kingdom of God. HOW ABOUT YOU?
And this is the plan: At the right time he will bring everything together under the authority of Christ-everything in heaven and on earth. Furthermore, because we are united with Christ, we have received and inheritance from God, for he chose us in advance, and he makes everything work out according to his plan.
My question today to all of us is, “CAN YOU SHINE WHERE YOU ARE?” For a person to shine, things need to be going in the right direction in their life. There is a scripture that says, “Let the peace of God rule in your hearts.” If you have the peace of God in your heart, you should be shining in your life. A smile on your face, a spring in your step, a HOPE in your HEART.
Shining in your life tells your family and friends that you are on the right track. That you are in the right place, doing what you are supposed to be doing and that life is good. Have you ever read a good book, I am sure you have. Do you know that your family and friends that are reading you every day just like they read a book? They can tell how things are going in your life by the way you SHINE. If you are not shining where you are right now, determine why not and make some changes that will get you where you need to be.
LIFE IN THE SUN “SON”
Sitting in Yuma AZ, at 6:00am in the morning thinking about how blessed I am. God has been so good to Kaye and I. We spent the day in Mexico and had a great time shopping and walking around seeing all the things that people had made to see on the streets.
But I could not help but think about, how many of them might know Christ and it seems like most of them by far did not have any idea of who Christ is or was. For the most part they are lost and without Christ
Jesus said, “I have come that they might have LIFE and LIFE more abundantly.” Why do so much of the worlds population not have this life that Jesus is talking about.
I heard a story about a man who in a barber shop getting a hair cut. In the conversation he told the barber he didn’t believe in God, because God would not allow all the hurt, sickness, and pain that is in the world. The barber did not know what to say but that night he had a dream. God showed him all the people walking by his barber shop. Many of them had long unruly hair that was not trimmed, they looked terrible. He asked God why won’t these people come in a get a hair cut. It’s because they don’t know any better and have not been taught. God told him it’s the same with the people of God, they simply won’t come into the presence of God because they don’t know any better and have not been taught.
The Bible tells us that in, “In Him was life and that life is the light for men.”
HOW TO BUILD A SUPER LIFE
Building a life is a lot like building a home or a structure, an office building or a house. It actually has to be planned out and thought about a little bit. It takes some planning. Most people plan more for their 2 week vacation than they do for their life. What are some of the ingredients that go into the building of a SUPER LIFE?
- Settle the issue of what God am I going to serve. Jesus Christ or myself.
- Settle the issue of the PRIORITIES of your life. Your life’s work, who you will marry, where you will live, these are important
- Settle the issue of the TYPE of person you want to be and become. A giving person, a selfish person, kind or angry. These are your personality traits. How you behave and act.
- Settle the issue of what and who are you going to serve in your life. A life is not very SUPER if all we do is get and never give of serve other people. Jesus said, “Love God and Love Others” pretty good advise from the Master.
- Settle the issue of CHOICES. All of these issue’s are determined by on very simple principle and that is the CHOICES that we decide each and every day of our lives. Little CHOICES can be and are very important to the SUPER LIFE.
- Why don’t you make the CHOICE today to live a SUPER LIFE, and live for God and OTHER’S YOU WILL NOT BE SORRY AT THE END OF YOUR LIFE.
We just celebrated my youngest daughter’s 40th birthday. What a great night it was. We had about 40 people who helped us sing Happy Birthday to Sherri. As I was looking around at all the family and friends who were to help us celebrate, God spoke to my heart and said, “This is what is really important.” He said, its all the friends and family that are gathered here to share all the memories of the past. These are the things that are important in life. Its not all the things and toys that we accumulate, not the houses and the cars, but the people we have built memories with. At that were there have been through good times and some bad times but we are all together and we share our lives with one another.
This is what life is all about. It’s about the relationships that we have build over the last 40 or 50 years. Some really good friends and a great family, with all our flaws and problems we are still together, serving the Lord and injuring the life that God has provided us with. WHAT A GREAT GOD WE SERVE.
If your not part of a FAMILY like this come join us, we will bring you in and make you a part of a great FAMILY
Many people live unfulfilled and frustrated lives because we do not understand the truth about MONEY. They believe lies that the enemy has told them about money. Things like, “money is unimportant”, “money is evil” and “money never hurt anybody.” These are lies that the enemy will tell you to confound your thinking on the matter of money.
Money can do a lot of bad things to a lot of people, however it can also do a lot of good for a lot of people if we know the purpose of money. Money is a tool just like a hammer or a drill. It can be used to hit someone in the head or it can be used to build a homeless shelter for homeless people. Which do you suppose would be the best use for the hammer?
Money can be used for evil and it can also be used to bless other people. The difference is how we look at MONEY. How do you look at money? Do you use it for good and for blessing other people, do you keep it just for your own needs, or do you use it for evil.
We all have to make a choice of HOW WE THINK ABOUT MONEY AND HOW WE WILL USE MONEY. IT REALLY IS YOUR CHOICE!
When we talk about ENLARGING PEOPLE we are talking about making an investment in people. When you make an investment, any kind of investment, it will cost you something in time or money or personal involvement. I believe the best investment you can make is to invest in yourself. Invest in your mind, your spirit, your body. When you invest in yourself you will automatically be investing in others at the same time.
People are the best inventory you have at your disposal. Sometimes we do not really value people the way we should. We have a tendency to value them if they can do something to help me get what I want. However valuing people should not be based on what they can do for you but what you can do for them. They may not be able to repay you for what you have done for them, but they are not your boss and they do not sign your paychecks. God is the one who can repay you for the kindness you do for other people.
God is the one who keeps track of what you are doing here on planet earth. He keeps score and He will repay in due season. You will be rewarded when you sow acts of kindness and ENLARGE PEOPLE. LOOK AROUND AND SEE WHO YOU CAN ENLARGE TODAY AND MAKE YOUR DAY COUNT.